And then I gave birth to my very own strong-willed child.
From the moment she came on the scene, my oldest daughter
was determined to do life on her own terms.
There wasn’t a passive bone in her body.
As she grew, I saw more and more of those strong-willed traits come to
light. She was stubborn, obstinate,
rebellious against our leading, and she was so difficult to discipline. I read every book I could find, tried every
technique, and cried buckets of tears.
There I was, just like the child psychology course said I would be,
endlessly frustrated and exhausted.
When my daughter was three, I received the most wonderful nugget
of wisdom from the wife of our children’s pastor at church. She told me that the most frustrating traits
in our children are also usually their God-given strengths, just out of
balance. If we can help them make
adjustments, then these negatives will become positives. Her words helped me gain a whole new
perspective!
I began to see how this temperament could really
be an asset to my daughter. Pointed in
the right direction, she would not fall victim to peer pressure. She would not be easily persuaded to walk
away from truth. She would grab onto what is right and just and never let
go. She would persevere in the face of
extreme difficulty. I began to feel hopeful about the future, which is only
right because my daughter’s name is Hope!
I wish I could tell you that everything was easy from that
point on, but it wasn’t. In fact, we
went through seasons where it actually felt like it was getting worse. But there were some breakthroughs along the
way. And as she grew and changed, we
also grew and changed. We started to see those negatives transform into
positives and we have shared many happy, wonderful times together. She was not a rebellious teenager and she had
no trouble walking away from peer pressure.
Those God-given strengths were becoming fully-developed in her. Today she is a confident and beautiful woman
of God who is passionately pursuing her dreams. I am truly blessed to be her
mother!
Do not despise the strong-willed child! Yes, there are
challenges, but when everything comes back into balance as it should, there is
tremendous blessing.
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