Day Twenty-nine- The Birds and The Bees

One of the most anxiety- producing topics of discussion among parents is that of sex education. The most frequently asked question I hear is “When is the right age to have “the talk?”” My answer: This conversation begins when your children are very young. Sex education begins with teaching your little ones the appropriate names for all of their body parts. Yes, it seems very clinical, but it sure eliminates a lot of confusion and awkward conversations later on. It is only embarrassing if we make it embarrassing.

We also need to be helping our little ones develop good hygiene habits. If we can learn to speak with our kids in a matter-of-fact manner about these issues, then we can continue that method of communication as we head into discussing puberty.

The onset of puberty varies, so really be watching for those early signs in your children. Also, it doesn’t hurt to pay attention to what is happening with their peers. Both of my daughters had classmates who started their periods while in the third grade. Consequently, we began to discuss what happens to a girl’s body during puberty around this time.  Pace yourself…you do not have to give them the entire scoop all in one session. Break down the information into manageable chunks that are age-appropriate and be prepared to answer lots of questions. There are many great resources available to help with this process, so don’t panic!  

Parents, we set the tone.  Again, it is only embarrassing or shameful if we make it that way. Be open and available to answer any and all questions. If you won’t answer their questions, they will just look elsewhere (friends, the internet). Wouldn’t you rather give them the information they need? Take a deep breath and keep those lines of communication open. Even in the teen years, you have the greatest amount of influence in your children’s lives. Take advantage of every opportunity you have to educate and equip your kids!